I was watching the Tyra show and Sasha Grey, a porn star who's more into bondage and whatnot, was on there. Tyra said there's a study that says a big percent of people who have been abused end up enjoying pain later on in life. Is that true?
I was abused for 12 years of my life and am a bit fond of pain. I always thought it was weird considering my past.Is it true that people who were abused in the past wind up liking pain?
Some pewople who were abused end up liking pain, yes.
And some people who were abused end up NOT liking pain.
And some people who were not abused end up liking pain.
And there are even people who were not abused who end up not liking pain.
We have no decent statistics. We have very little statistics on kinky people, and we are getting very little more because universities grantmakers and others who control what is researched at a professional level don't want to be associated with it.
Sadly, in many countries, consensual adult play involving sado masocism is criminalized as well as defined as illness. There ARE efforts to remove cultural (often religious) rather than science based ';diagnoses'; from the Diagnostic Statistical Manual and the European equivilent f65.Is it true that people who were abused in the past wind up liking pain?
From what little I've read about it, there seems to be a connection, a statistical significant relationship, between being abused as a child and sexual attraction to pain, humiliation, bondage and similar activities. My own experiences seem to confirm this, but that's anecdotal evidence, and it may simply seem that way for me because someone open enough to discuss their sexual urges with a friend is also more open to discussing the more difficult parts of their life story.
For the record, this does not mean that a person that was abused develop such kinks, or that someone with such kinks were abused. It simply means that someone abused is more likely to enjoy such sexual behaviours than others.
Also, I do not know what kind of definition of abuse the research done have used, but for my anecdotal evidence I've used a very broad definition, which includes such things as bullying at school and overly strict parents who may or may not give out physical punishment, but who wouldn't really be considered abusive parents.
';People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.';
鈥揟hich Nhat Hanh
It makes sense. The cycle of abuse...some turn that pain inward, others take it out on others. So, causing pain to ourselves or causing pain to others. I think more than ';liking'; pain, it's a means of escaping the real feelings that some people who were abused run away from. Reality is sometimes the harshest and hardest thing for people to face. Actually, the denial of reality is what makes life miserable.
I've never been and I am
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